You Are Doing Great Mom!
Mother’s Day is around the corner and it has me thinking about what it is to be a Mom. I have 5 biological children and 13 more that I also nurture, love and call mine. Being a Mom has been one of the most joyful experiences of my life. I absolutely love it. I have never loved another person more than I love my children... but to be absolutely real, being a Mom is also one of the hardest things I do. It challenges me every day. I mean every day.
My 2 year old, Ariella is so beautiful and brings me so much joy, but she is very determined, independent, and has to be watched every minute or my bathroom sink would clogged with lotion; food would be dumped out all over the pantry floor; and she would be found two blocks down the street in her plastic high heel dress up shoes, fluffy dress, sunglasses, and her purse containing a favorite small toy on her way to uh... somewhere. She has no idea how much effort went into caring for her that day! It is just my responsibility as her Mother, because I love her, more than life itself.
Being a Mom… Is staying up until midnight on a Friday cutting out pictures until your hands hurt for a school project so that your middle schooler can turn in her Google classroom assignment on time... Is breastfeeding your child until she is two because she needs the nurturing... Is sleeping sitting upright while your feverish six-year old sleeps in your arms and every time he makes a noise you jump to attention with the throw up bowl… Is carefully navigating that conversation with your college-aged daughter about finding the right person to share life with… Is letting your teen son have his independence and start making his own decisions, even though you have been protecting him his whole life and you are scared to death the world is going to eat him alive… Is waiting and respecting your adult child to ask for advice… Is listening to your teenage daughter express her feelings for two hours and being interested in everything she has to say… Is going to work, so you can financially care for your children… Is lying awake at night worrying about all the mistakes you have made that day raising your kids and making a new commitment to do better tomorrow… Is always making sure your kids are safe and taken care of no matter what sacrifices it takes.
It is just what we do, because we are completely amazing and because we absolutely love our children with everything in us. The New York Post mentioned that a Mom’s responsibility is the equivalent of 2.5 full time jobs. Um...yea. We are pretty hard core. Being a Mom is a 24/7, 365 days a year gig!
One of the things that my own Mother taught me is that you have to take care and love yourself. For me, other than the love that God gives me, I have to make sure I know how to fill up my own Love Tank (the little place inside myself that holds the reserve of love and energy I use to do all the amazing stuff I do)! There are people in our life that can love us, but honestly it is our responsibility to figure out, with Gods help, how to love our self. This is also our responsibility as a Mother.
When you are on a plane, the flight attendant says that in the event of an inflight emergency put on your oxygen mask BEFORE you put it on anyone else. Well, as a Mother this is our responsibility. We need to make sure to take care of our self, before we can take care of our children. We have to give our self the oxygen, so that we have the energy to give our children oxygen. It isn’t selfish. It is very important to do. Otherwise we won’t have what it takes to take care of them and give them what they need.
So this Mother’s Day enjoy the flowers, the cards, the Popsicle stick picture frames, and their l love you’s, but make sure you do something to love yourself. Embrace the amazing woman that you are and do something special for you! When you are feeling whole you can freely give love and care to your babies. It is how you will continue to be amazing! You are doing great Mom!
P.S. A special shout out to all those Mr. Moms out there who are making it happen! You rock!
Comments on this post (13)
Thank you for such a wonderful message. My children are all grown now but the memories never fade! You will always wonder if you did your best. Now you start over with your grandchildren!! God bless to you and your children and sister wives.
— Missy Guyton
I’m from the United Kingdom and I love watching your programme on tv. You are all truly amazing and loving woman, I congratulate you all xx
This is extremely true and inspirational. Don’t give up on your dreams. You’re doing awesome!
They are all lucky to have you as their mum as well as all the other mums too ,xxxx
— Vi johnson
So true…self care at whatever stage you are is vital. My husband died recently and it brought to my heart how fragile life is and how each day is precious.
Beautifully said. We sometimes forget to nurture ourselves the way we should. It’s easy to get caught up in the day to day, but so important to remember to take care of our body, mind and soul. Happy Mothers Day to you and your sister wives.
What a beautiful article. Everything I have ever felt or done is here ! The days you are so tired you don’t think you can gather the energy to eat. The night’s filled with high fevers, cool bathes then holding your baby as they fall asleep again. All those days and nights fade as they grow older and new late nights
for different reasons take its place. But the reward is worth it. The handmade gifts, the dandelion bouquets. Thank you to all the Mothers !!!
— Dianne M Woodburn
Hi Robyn! Thank you so much for this post. As a first
time biological mother this year (I have 2 older kids I claim as mine and live with full time as well), I can certainly relate to the new challenges that newborns come with. My older 2 came to me at 3 and 5 so the late night feedings and breast feeding are new joys but also new challenges. Thank you for all you do, you have a wonderful family and are 4 wonderful moms. Happy mother’s day!
P.S. my oldest son has asperger’s too so I am so happy to see what a sweet young man your Dayton is on the show. He reminds my husband and I of our Matthew. Great example for other parents of kids on the spectrum 💖
What a beautiful post! Thanks so much for sharing! Happy Mother’s Day! ❤️
— Janine W
Very well said. Your very inspiring. Thank
You. Happy mother’s day to you and all your sister wives.
As a mother you have hit the nail on the head. As I am only a mother of two boys. We need to self care in order to care for others. There is no instructions book on motherhood. We pull things out of a hat most of the time. Support from other mothers like yourself and the rest of the sister-wives lets us know we got thour s and we are not alone. Happiest Mother’s Day to all of you ladies and Madison 💗
Thank you for posting this! I know too well the sleepless nights, the wondering if what I’ve done is enough, the hope that I’m doing all I can for them… and the nights with the throw-up bucket.
One of the things I have always struggled with is self-care. Realizing that I can’t pour from an empty bottle. It was just last year that I finally made the resolution to take better care of myself, and I think that as I continue to do that daily and it ebbs & flows, I am becoming a better mother.
Peace, love & blessings to you & yours.
— Melissa Garner
You are the greatest gift from the heavens Robyn. You are filled with love and care for all your children and the entire family. Thankyou for your inspirational words. Happy Mother’s Day to you too!
— Rebecca Thornton